Jealousy In A Marriage - Good Or Bad?

One of the most common problems that married couples encounter is the occasional bout of jealousy. This has been known to start arguments, cause pain and eventually rip two people apart.

As a part of a married couple, you would know whether you have the tendency to be jealous with reasons that are most often not justified enough.
It is crucial to examine the deeper feelings that create jealousy instead of just trying to deal with the negative emotions emerging from it.
Now let's see how you can deal with jealousy in your marriage:

1. Get an insight of your inner self.
Ask yourself why you tend to get jealous unreasonably. Does your partner actually show signs that you should not trust him or her?
Trust is the best defense against jealousy. When two people trust each other jealousy is much less likely to get any chance at all. However, distrust is the perfect foundation on which jealousy can grow - and eventually get out of control.
If it really with your time to get jealous at a certain point?

2. Remember that a small dose of jealousy is actually healthy for a relationship. As long as it does not amount to obsessive proportions, a little jealousy is actually healthy for your marriage. The feeling of being jealous comes from the desire to preserve your relationship. It also boils down to the feeling of possessiveness towards your partner which is the result of your love for each other.
Men and women alike will want to 'protect their territory' and a person we are married to belongs to this territory. This is hard-wired into human behavior and we cannot change it.
If you keep this in mind then you can actually use these feelings to be constructive instead of being destructive and make them work towards improving your relationship.

3. Track down the root of these feelings. The way that you feel is the outcome of a certain situation. Ask yourself why you have a feeling of jealousy. If this feeling actually comes from an insecurity that you have it could be a feeling of shortcoming that you are lacking in something. Or it could be a result of a deep-seated doubt that you have in about relationship with your partner.
This can also be caused by fear, or a past hurt that you have carried in to adulthood.
There are many possible explanations for it - but in most cases there has been one particular incident that caused a person to be jealous from there.
If you can manage to find the root for these feelings within yourself you will be able to deal with jealousy much better than before.

4. Keep in mind that there are other types of jealousy.
You might be jealous of things or traits your partner has and you don't.
By going to the root of the problem, you can properly address your feelings.

5. Try to think for a moment what jealousy does to the feelings of your partner.
Many times jealousy has been the cause why couples separate.
Have you ever thought how it feels if your partner is jealous all the time? Try to put yourself in the shoes of your spouse and understand what this would do to your feelings if you were him or her.

6. Try to prevent irrational jealousy
In case you find that the reason for jealousy is low self-esteem then you should work on changing your attitude. Of course this is easier said than done but many couples have successfully managed to keep this dangerous animal jealousy under control through gaining a better self-understanding first.

7. Accept taking risks.
You might fear to be disappointed by your partner and do anything you can to fight a situation where you could possibly be disappointed.
In life you must accept taking risks because there is no way to avoid ever getting hurt. Try to accept this as a basic fact in life. There is no life vest against getting hurt.
Learning to deal with these feelings will help you to have a happier and lasting marriage.